Episode 16 – How can I stop disagreements with my spouse from becoming blaming matches?

Today on The Not-So-Serious Life, Jason and Steve answer the viewer question:

“Anytime my spouse and I have a disagreement, it turns into a blaming match. How can I stop that?”

Steve’s celebrity status may be going to his head after a recent breakfast outing he had BUT we are going to try to stay on track for Episode 16 of The Not-So-Serious Life!

Since “Why won’t you just listen to me?!?!?” and “Calm Down!!” don’t seem to work in diffusing conflict, maybe this episode will help you have productive, relationship-building “disagreements” with your spouse (and other people in your life) a little more gracefully and effectively.

JG talks about what he believes blame really means, how it can be a gift and the question he asks himself when in a potentially emotional convo with his wife to slow him down and bring him back to reality.

Steve also shares a really powerful reframe of blame and how to go from what we think we need to do in those situations to a place of love, understanding and a Not-So-Serious interpretation of the blame.

Plus, stay tuned til the end to see Jason’s Not-So-Serious version of absolute freedom!

Do you ever get into blaming matches with your significant other or co-workers or friends?

Drop us a comment below and let us know if you think the reframes and tips we shared may work in your own difficult conversations or disagreements.

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Wishing you big fun, big love, and big laughs,

JG and SC

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7 Comments to Episode 16 – How can I stop disagreements with my spouse from becoming blaming matches?

  1. Hey! That was the question I was gonna send in today!
    My wife and I JUST had one of these “discussions”. 🙂 It didn’t feel like a gift right away.
    I think an important distinction (that I wish I had understood last night) is that slowing down and listening to your partner does not mean disengaging completely. Not defending while staying engaged and attentive is the skill I’m working on. I’m finding that I’ve really got to kick my ego to the curb for this to happen.
    Thanks for answering my question before I’ve even asked it! Will you tell me some of the other questions I have that I don’t know I have yet?
    Love and appreciate you guys!

    • jason Goldberg

      Hey Jan, send me an email and I will get it to you 🙂

      jg [at] thenotsoseriouslife [dot] com



  2. That’s why if you don’t want to help a restaurant , don’t complain, because if the restaurant is smart, then will take it like an almost free market research and will improve its situation.
    Be the restaurant.
    Thank you Jason and Steve!

  3. Love this episode guys!!! Love the show, thanks for my recent gifts in mail! Made my day!!!!
    here’s a question: how do you keep creating your dream life and job when nobody except yourself is cheering you on?

    • Jason goldberg

      Hey Dr Marty!

      Go ahead and email your question to questions [at] thenotsoseriouslife [dot] com!



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